Posts Tagged ‘friends’

Dr. J.

February 9, 2009

No, not Julius Erving of pro basketball fame.   This Dr. J. is 5’ 8” and 200 pounds.

I wanted to introduce him to you as he will be a key reference in a couple of upcoming posts.  Dr. J. is one of those friends who you can lose track of for a year and, when you get back together on the phone or in person, it’s as if no time has passed at all.   I met him when he was my newly assigned immediate boss back in the olden days when I was a wet-behind-the-ears junior management guy.   We hit it off as friends right away.

Now, the “Doctor” of the Dr. J. is well earned.   He got a Ph.D. in Chemistry from some well respected university*.  Then, after about 8 years working various places as a chemist, he up and decided that chemistry was boring and he wanted new adventures.  Thus the switch to management.   I was amazed he took such a major step in that transition and continue to be so.  Dr. J. rose through management hierarchy in my business and was the Vice President of one division, as well as running (at separate times) both the management and engineering branches of major divisions.  A smart guy.

As I struggled with my life and what to do about my failing marriage, Dr. J. was there as a mentor and guide (having been through one himself a few years prior to me first talking through my issues).  His sense of humor, coupled with his brute honesty as he pointed out errors – or the occasional accurate insight – in my thinking, was a critical to me maintaining my sanity (forgive the exaggeration) as I worked through all the devious twists and turns .  We still keep in touch, though not as much since he has retired and lives quite a few states away.  His sense of humor is sharp as always and cuts to the heart of issues we talk through.

Here’s hoping all of you have friends such as Dr. J.

More on him in future posts…


*Well, that is if you consider the University of Kentucky “respected”.  [smirk]


Baby’s First Christmas

December 29, 2008

Yep, this was it. 

 I was wondering how it would go.  My first Christmas ‘by myself’.  My worry lobe kicked in and i wondered if i’d be lonely, morose, disconnected…

And, happily to say, it went pretty well.  With much help from friends and Daughter Person…and some introspective self-preparation…I didn’t find myself wallowing in the muck of self-despair, wailing at my solitude.  And I’m pretty damned happy about that. 

 Things that helped out a lot – –

            I felt it a good thing to actually put up a tree and decorate some around the house instead of just going into denial that there was a holiday going.  Girl Child, though I know it was conflicting her, helped me pick out the Christmas tree – “Baby’s First Christmas Tree”.   She also gave a hand at putting up my very limited decorations.  I thought it was cute that she tried to put something Christmassy  in every room.  We deferred putting lights and ornaments on the tree until it ‘blossomed’ a bit (and, honestly, I think Girl Child was glad to not have to help with that as it would’ve emphasized the separation). 


ooo pretty

ooo pretty

         Got my Christmas cards sent out, along with my new address.  Didn’t expect many, but I did get some cards back from family (check a future post on one of my favorites) and a few long lost friends.

          I’m not a huge bleeding heart on Christmas music, but it did help to find the Christmas CDs I was able to steal liberate rightfully take from the old home.  I picked out a couple of jazzy CDs (“Cool Yule I” and “II”).  Got me a bit more in the holiday spirit.

          Had a couple friends pass along some Christmas decorations, ornaments, and (yum!) goody treats.  My most favorite of those and the first on “Baby’s First Christmas Tree”?  Dear Friend brought me this to commemorate my ‘escape’ and starting new ventures in life –

          And the topper?  Despite the opening sentences, this Christmas was not spent ‘by myself’.  Daughter Person spent most of Christmas day with me.  The Spouse had her sister in town to keep her company, so Girl Child thought it would be good to hang out with me.  We exchanged gifts, ate way too much candy and cookies, watched some movies, played some games, listened to music, and just chilled together. 

awww baby's first christmas

awww baby's first christmas


So, I hereby declare “Baby’s First Christmas” as a success in my road to a new life.  And I’m looking forward to future “Baby’s First . . . “ events in that new life.

And here’s hoping that your holidays were as satisfying to you and yours – – –



Happy Holidays

December 25, 2008


i truly wish you all, my seemingly imaginary, yet real to me,  interweb friends who are a real blessing to me through these trying times, a happy holiday. 

may you find peace and happiness.