I wrote about a self-introspection (is that redundantly repetitive?) in anticipation of slowly getting back into dating.
It will be an adventure for me. I was the fat, shy kid in high school. I did not date that much. Hell, I barely dated. While university found me not so fat anymore, I remained shy. And did not date that much then either. Then I got married. And here, 30 years later, I have to relearn something I never really learned well in the first place–How to date.
So, does my loyal readership care? Should I share that new adventure via my blog post? Like other things in this journey of divorce and rediscovering my life, whether you read it or not, I find comfort in jotting down my thoughts. It helps clarify what I’m thinking…or not thinking. And, honestly, I’d prefer to have the advice of any of you over ten Oprahs or Doctor Phils (both of whom bug the hell out of me).
I’ve still a ways to go, as mentioned in that other post, before I even can start dating. But I find myself pondering how to best update once I do.
On one post, the author, Penfold, ends each of his posts with either “I surfed today” or “I didn’t surf today”.
Perhaps that’s what I should to – “I dated today” or “I didn’t date today”.
I’ve also heard of a lost soul who blogs in England and indicates, by time, how long it’s been since he’s had sex: “It’s been 53 days since I’ve had sex.”
Maybe I could employ a combo of the two? “I got laid today” or “I didn’t get laid, but had a grand time by myself today…”.
Yeah, all of that’s likely TMI. And, honestly, I wouldn’t feel too comfortable sharing that, even here.
I will, however, throw a few nuggets out occasionally… just stick with talking through the thoughts, fears, and questions of dating. Again, I value my readers’ opinions much more so than any too highly paid talking head.
Tags: dating, divorce, hell has frozen over, The D word
The Wilds of Ohio 
August 24, 2009 at 22:01 |
You do not want to be like Fwengebola. Rob has read me some of his posts and seriously, no one can be that sad.
I like that “surf or surf not” thing.
August 25, 2009 at 04:32 |
I choose SHARE some of it with us and let the old married folks who tune in live vicariously through your dating adventures. I don’t know about the whole thing at the end though – sounds kind of Fonzie. If you date and find someone worth re-dating and maybe re-re-dating, I imagine you’ll eventually want to share this blogging thing you do with that person, so whatever you choose to do should take that into account. It might be hard to be terribly honest to us and fair and gentlemanly to your dates! Not that you haven’t already thought about that, gentleman that you are 😉
August 25, 2009 at 15:44 |
one word: “schadenfreude”
show us your failures. makes us feel less loser-tastic! not down to the ‘fluid exchange’ level of detail, of course. and if you find some magic, meet wondrous people, and learn valuable lessons? yeah… go get ’em, hotstuff!
August 25, 2009 at 18:40 |
annie – i definitely won’t be going that direction, but may still tease a bit with the ‘dating/not dating/not dating but enjoying myself’ options…
mstngsal – yep, i’ve already thought about the “be careful what goes in here”. i will not get explicit at all. and, honestly, likely won’t share too much either (as daisyfae says, “…not down to the ‘fluid exchange’ level of detail…” i don’t want those i want to be close with feeling they’re not special. after all, i am a gentleman (that, itself, with it’s attendant issues and problems to be discussed soon).
daisyfae – i’m expecting…hell, already have achieved…to be an exampled schadenfreude candidate for others. yet still hoping for the new magic… or even old magics…
August 31, 2009 at 16:26 |
I’m 4 years without having sex and don’t feel really bad about it.